30 + 1

Over the weekend 30 got an upgrade. I moved from the 30 doorway and fully into the cascade of the years which will now be forever known as My 30’s. 

On the 17^th Nina took me to dinner at The Melting Pot followed by the Floetry Concert at the TLA. Dinner was amazing, being that this was Nina’s first time trying fondue, she was very open to the idea and enjoyed it. So much that she said she would like to return so that’s where we will be doing dinner for her upcoming birthday. The concert was great. Seeing Natalie and Marsha back on the stage blessing us with their musical melodies and talent revived my soul. 

The 18^th, my actual birthday, we had a BBQ with friends at my home. Nina decided to surprise me with a Stripper which was supposed to turn our evening into fun but ended up being more of a letdown. Let’s just we know which agency to never use again and to strictly recruit our entertainment from our local stripclubs. Once the hustler left we continued to have a wonderful time. Nina asked me if she could take me away next year for my birthday. I told her of course she could. 

My 31 Reflection: Life has been giving me so many blessings. 2015 has turned out to be a great year for me professionally and personally. I got to spend my birthday with a great partner who’s family loves and adores me so much that her Mother called and sang happy birthday to me and will be making a birthday dinner complete with my favorite cake this coming weekend. 

Next Up: Movin’ On In. Nina and I will be living together…

Hello Marriage Equality, What The Hell Took You So Long?

Pride Month wrapped up with the Supreme Court of the United States declaring the ban on same sex marriage unconstitutional, therefore Gay and Lesbian couples who wish to marry are now afforded the same rights, benefits and protections under federal and state laws as the Breeders. No doubt this ruling has brought out the homophobes and nay sayers…and those who you thought were supporters of the Gay and Lesbian community are suddenly showing how much they are playing for Team Homophobe. 

I had a family member tell me that her sister, whom I have always regarded as my sister and have been out in front of my entire life, said to some other family members that she doesn’t understand why she allows her teenage daughter to be a Lesbian. Allow? She doesn’t have a choice in this whatsoever, she was born a lesbian whether you want to accept the science behind it or not. I was so heated over this news that I took Facebook, went to my baby cousin’s page and posted for the entire world to see that I love her for who she is, despite how others may judge her life. She is a whole person 24/7/365 and those who truly love you will love all of you not just pieces of your that they agree with. Another cousin who is a minister’s wife posted that she doesn’t agree with homosexuality but finds it hard to support her family and friends who are homosexual. Ummm excuse me Miss Fake First Lady of the church but weren’t you identifying as lesbian back in high school? You had a full fledge lesbian relationship. Now you don’t agree with homosexuality when you identified as one? Right…

So called Christians using the bible to only suit their argument against same sex marriage, yet they don’t want to talk about how divorce is a sin, cohabitation before marriage is a sin, premarital sex is a sin, having children out of wedlock is a sin, having affairs is a sin. And the list goes on and on. But we don’t talk about that, right? Right…

I’m glad Marriage Equality is here because it’s exposing people for the fakes and two faced wannabes they truly are. I know where I stand with certain family members and which Christians are truly Christians. 

In other news, Dad’s retirement party went well…except for the freeloading motherfuckers who showed up who were not invited. One thing is for sure, I need to get my girl some dance lessons because she cannot dance! LOL! She has to learn before we attend our first wedding together…

Me & Nina: How It's Supposed To Be

Happy Pride 2015! I decided not to attend any of the Pride festivities in Philly this year. Just the same shit, different year and they aren’t even making an effort to change it. OutFest is what I attend so in October I’ll celebrate in the Gayborhood with my same sex loving brothers and sisters. And I just so happen to have an awesome, kickass girlfriend to spend time with so later for all the Pride madness. 

I have to admit that I have been truly blessed with Nina. No ex drama, no baby daddy/mama drama, no drama period! We’re lovers and best friends. It truly gets no better than this. For years I have fallen for women who could not even reciprocate the love, openness, honesty, loyalty, or affection that I brought to the table. With Nina I don’t have to ask, beg, or plead because it’s always there even when you least expect it. Arguments? What arguments? We don’t have them. We have some of the deepest discussions about God, life choices, and how the world is today. We value our time together yet also value our time apart. If I go out with friends she’s content waiting for me at home until I return, if she has a late work event to attend I make sure she comes home to comfortable surroundings and nothing but love because I understand she’s had a long day. We just fit and it works and I’m so grateful for this woman. 

I’m not the only one who loves Nina. My best friend and her husband have welcomed her into the family with open arms. Recently a friend of ours was asking for attendance confirmations for her upcoming wedding down south. I sent this friend a text letting her know that I would be attending with Nina and that we planned to fly in, rent a car, and hotel for the weekend. This friend text me back stating that Nina was welcome to attend the ceremony but she was unsure if she could attend the reception. Now before I proceed with the other part of this story I must say that is tacky and must be some new age wedding bullshit because my upbringing is that if you invite a single person to an event you always give a plus one. If they bring someone great, if not still great. Back to the story, my best friend’s husband got wind of all of this and said “If Nina is not welcome then none of us are welcome.” We all decided not to attend. How much sense does it make for us to spend money on getting to the wedding plus a gift only for my girlfriend to have to sit in the hotel room while the rest of us are at the reception. That’s a not cool by any means. 

Instead of spending the money going to someone’s wedding we decided to spend the money on a weekend vacation somewhere warm and where we can run around in bikinis all weekend. I’m thinking Key West or maybe even Saint Croix. 

In other news, both of our leases are up close to the end of this year and we already spend five nights out of the week with each other anyway…so yeah we’re thinking of sharing a common address…

The Second Closet: Lesbians & Domestic Violence

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Women & Pyramid Schemes

This post is certainly going to ruffle some feathers, especially those who are under the influence of these so called women geared businesses that are really pyramid schemes. What am I talking about? I’m sure you’ve heard of “It Works”, “Jewelry In Candle”, “Stella and Dot”, “Premiere Designs Jewelry”, “Lia Sophia”, “Pure Romance”, and “Thirty-One Gifts” just to name a few of the big ones out there. 

Back in college during my sociology studies I took a class entitled Criminology which explored various levels of crime to include white collar crimes. One segment on the class touched on what we know today as pyramid schemes or multilevel marketing businesses. These businesses sell you the dream of basically being your own boss, running your own company, more money, more independence, more freedom. Sounds like a dream, right? Hell that’s what we all want, right? If you have half a brain you know this is nothing but bullshit and hype. Your real job is to recruit more poor, simple minded, believe anything without concrete facts and reading the fine print, fools to help build the brain child’s bank account. Translation: YOU ARE NOT YOUR OWN BOSS, YOU DO NOT OWN YOUR OWN COMPANY, YOU WORK FOR SOMEONE ELSE'S BRAND AND BRAIN CHILD BECAUSE NONE OF THIS IS YOUR ORIGINAL IDEA OR PLAN, YOU’RE A PAWN OR IF IT MAKES YOU FEEL BETTER SALES REP. 

The only thing slightly worse than the delusion many of these women fall into is the cult like mentality they develop soon thereafter. If you’re not trying to buy something from them, attending their sales parties disguised as dinner or cocktail parties, or signing up to join the illustrious cult society they don’t have anything to say to you. I have a few friends who have fallen victim to these pyramid scheme businesses and if any one of us tries to engage with them on a normal level, invite them to go out and have a normal life all they want to do is talk about their products and push for people to sign up. Nothing more, nothing less. If you’re not trying to buy or become a mindless cult worshiper then they don’t have the time for you. I actually had someone email me practically begging me to sign up under one of their friends so they could reach their next promotion level. I was like are you fucking crazy? I don’t want anything to do with these kinds of things. This has led to me unfollowing these people on Facebook. 

Sales pitches and sign up pressure aside, all their products are complete bullshit and a waste of money. Take Jewelry In Candle for example, the cost of one candle can range from $14.95 - $24.95 supposedly there is a piece of jewelry in there that could be worth anything from $5 - $1000 (which I believe is complete bullshit too and they have been disproved via YouTube and Federal consumer complaints many times). Let’s get real here, those same scents are available at Target even Yankee Candle for half the price. So if you do decide to purchase one of those JIC products you’re paying local sales tax and shipping on top of the price which basically you’re paying $30 - $40 for the same damn candle that’s available at Target for $4.99 or less! Same goes for those bags and costume jewelry companies, you can get better quality and better prices elsewhere. And don’t get me started on those wraps. Seriously? Start a diet and take your ass to the gym and in the meantime buy a good body shaper (not those dumbass waist trainers either) so you can fake it until you get the body you desire. Nothing comes easy especially where health and fitness are concerned so that money you’re pumping into those wraps and teas and other bullshit invest in some fresh fruits, veggies, and healthier foods and a gym membership. You’ll thank me later. Those results I can guarantee. And you didn’t have to sell anything or sign up to get that information. 

Times are tough especially if you have student loan debt on your plate but there are other ways to make money than pouring your hopes and already short money stream into some business that’s nothing more than a pyramid scheme designed to support the man or woman who came up with the idea from the beginning. Wise up ladies, or forever be a damn cult worshipping fool…