Dating is not easy, and truthfully not my favorite thing in the world. I believe that’s why I was such a serial monogamist for all those years. But none the less, it is a necessary evil if one desires to find Mrs. Right instead of Ms. Right Now.
Back in January I made the decision to start actively participating in the dating arena. My life is on a great path, school is going well, work is going well (and even getting better), I have a wonderful group of friends, and my relationship with my Mother is closer than ever (now that she knows she’ll be getting that one thing she has asked me for in the future). So why not add to it, right? Easier said than done for me.
Lady X and I have been dating on/off since January and as much as I did initially like her and considered embarking into relationship territory I’m glad I waited because I got to see her true colors, indirectly discern the truth about her “situation” and learn that as much as I want to like her a certain way this woman and I could never have the fulfilling relationship that I truly desire. The result: Platonic Friend Zone.
GI Jane is the woman I have been out with twice. Things were
going extremely well communication wise. We enjoyed the same things,
conversation flowed naturally, and I got to see her in an athletic zone which
was pretty cool BUT (yup there’s one) one afternoon while I was out with
friends and informed her that we were still attending an event and
unfortunately there was no way I was going to make it to an impromptu meeting
at a bar she was attending with her friends. I guess that didn’t sit well with
her because she hung up and sent me an “Oh Whatever!” text. RED FLAGS! The
result: Platonic Friend Zone. Even though she called, apologized, and offered
an explanation for her antics – “I was drinking and wanted to see you”, I still
can’t see myself being nothing more than friends with her. She presented
herself as feminine but when we hang out outside of athletics she’s more on the
Soft Stud side – nothing feminine about her dress at all.
Other women and I have been on one date and it never went anywhere. The chemistry wasn’t there, the conversation was lacking, or we just didn’t click on any level at all. All in all, I can honestly say with the women I have been encountering I’m just not that into them…and so my search continues…
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