Sorry for the late hooray moment, but I did complete my
first year of Nursing School back on May 23rd and celebrated with my
awesome Divas at Sisters. I got home at 3:30AM rolled out of bed a hungover
mess to make it to school on time for my clinical evaluation. Now I’m on summer
break and get to reenergize for my Senior year ahead. Wow time really has flown
by…
Any who, back to the subject at hand. Online Dating. I still
have two active profiles out there, although I did recently meet an incredibly
beautiful, smart, fun woman whom I have had the pleasure of spending time with,
in fact tomorrow morning we’re going on an Ice Cream for Breakfast date (can
you say excited! I value uniqueness)…but I’ll dish a little more about her
later...I have to admit that my original go to site (Curve Personals) is very
stale these days. Lesson Learned: A good site doesn’t last forever.
A few months ago I was out at a Meetup group happy hour and
overheard two members talking about OK Cupid. Being the curious person I am I
signed up, completed my profile, uploaded recent pictures and let the good
times roll. The beauty of this site is that it’s free! You can email people and
respond to their emails without having to pay a single fee. You can see who has
stalked (I mean viewed) your profile and even send out broadcast for folks to
meet up with you somewhere local and safe. Another cool feature they have is match
questions – the more questions your answer the higher your match potential and
it even shows you if this person is a good match for a Lover, Friend, or Enemy.
Not sure how 100% valid it is but it’s a fun tool. They have a very active member
base which is good. The drawback? Incomplete profiles, profiles without
pictures (or just bad blurry, I’m hiding from the FBI pictures), and the nosy
male who likes checking out lesbian profiles – although I have just discovered
a fix to this. They offer you the option for your profile to only be visible to
your fellow Lesbians. This is the site where I met G.I. Jane (yeah that
nickname suits her for now).
Last night I was on Facebook’s Our Sista Circle page (by the
way, if any Lesbians of Color are seeking an online venue to socialize and
connect with other Lesbians of Color please join their website and like their
Facebook page. This is for Lesbians of Color ONLY and the admin is very serious
about keeping it that way. Respect her house.) and a member asked a question
about her Craigslist ad. Now aside from finding a job or an apartment, I highly
doubt you are going to find anything of substance in the Craigslist personals.
But hey if ratchet/trashy is what you go for then so be it. Here is the text
she shared from her Craigslist ad:
“Submitted Question for Advice-- So I am a
seasonal CL poster (it is how I tend to meet new women offline) and
occasionally I get the "helpful" email stating I am asking for way to
much. So I want to know, how do the ladies of Our Sista Circle craft a personal
ad. I have been told I am far too honest with what I want and who I am (Me:
chocolate brown, natural hair, 5K above poverty money, non-smoker, casual
drinker, grad student, non driver, chatty, anxious, selfish, over weight, moody,
speed talker looking for a calm non-smoking individual that likes to cuddle and
make out, no kids nor desire for kids, will allow me to be a human with moods
and emotions and the inconstancies that entails, has a firm grasp on their
career and what they want to do with the next ten years, owns or rents a place
alone, pays their bills regularly, comfortable with a friend that is a lover
approach to a relationship, enjoys giving and taking control, likes to plan and
co-plan), too controlling in how much time we spend with each other and the
money we invest in each other (Call at least once a day to establish a pattern
of being in each other's lives, make an attempt to spend one day a week
together, any time spent together is without cell phones, that we do not dive
in our savings to treat each other, do not do things we can not afford to do on
a regular basis.) tend to over think everything (reiterate anxious) and put the
idea of love on a pedestal (love is a seed that must be tended daily in its
early stages to grow roots until tending becomes a practice like showering.).
I don't want to bankrupt someone for a night on the town nor have someone try to take my last pennies. I am careless with my own cash and do not need encouragement to bring my bank account to zero (It's there until payday right now.).
I want to have someone to call and listen to my lack luster days and talk about fun/boring/political/random/etc things that strike us. I want someone between 26 and 34 years of age so I don't feel like a baby sitter or a indulged child. If only for the summer.”
I don't want to bankrupt someone for a night on the town nor have someone try to take my last pennies. I am careless with my own cash and do not need encouragement to bring my bank account to zero (It's there until payday right now.).
I want to have someone to call and listen to my lack luster days and talk about fun/boring/political/random/etc things that strike us. I want someone between 26 and 34 years of age so I don't feel like a baby sitter or a indulged child. If only for the summer.”
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