Single & Fabulous

Apr 27, 2014

Women to Watch


Originally this post was supposed to be a showcase of other Lesbian Bloggers but no one submitted their sites so the post must go on. There are a few women who I feel deserve special recognition for their hard work and dedication to their crafts. 

Nandi Tahir of Three Little Birds Tees, in a society where African-American women are struggling to be recognized as an icon of beauty, Nandi has created an entire line of t-shirts dedicated to empowering African-American women. I own several of her tees, my favorite is the Black is Beautiful tee featured. In addition to tees Nandi has 100% authentic African earrings. Nandi is always coming up with new designs so please follow TLB on Facebook and purchase her inspirational tees. This is one purchase you won’t regret. FYI: if you’re local to the Philadelphia area visit her showroom located on 202 Long Lane, Upper Darby, PA

Teroya of Lady Bugs Forever, I’m all about empowering young women especially when there are so many negative examples out there. Teroya is a dear friend, mentor, and inspiration of mine so when she told me she was moving forward with her dream and vision of a non-profit organization to support and empower young women I knew glitter and gold were in the near future. Ladybugs Forever holds dear “the understanding that all young ladies want to feel welcome and wanted. We will give them a place to go forever and always. We will offer continuing career counseling into adulthood. Finding out what each member desires individually, and allowing them to express their goals to their peers and community. Keeping all parents of our members connected with what their daughter holds dear. Honoring the expressed wishes of parents to ensure their trust remains positive. Showing each member how to structure their own goals and follow them in accordance with what they expect for themselves. Closing the communication gaps within home and community by allowing each member to speak freely. Knowing that there may be incidents where our members could express things that are serious in nature, and assisting their family in dealing with that by proper referral. Helping to remind our members that with a positive, respectful approach you can relay any and all feelings properly.” Ladybugs Forever will be expanding with dreams of going nationwide. Donate and support the dream. 

Lesbian Love Advice/Lesbian LoveAdvice Singles, there are thousands of pages for lesbians on Facebook but LLA/LLA Singles are a cut above the rest. Two of the admins are my favorite, they asks relevant questions about dating and relationships, and post members questions for advice. Some admins keep it more interesting than others, but if you’re looking for a good Facebook distraction LLA/LLA Singles is the place to be.

Know other inspirational women we should be watching? Are you a Lesbian blogger with a blog you’d like to share? Submit the info via email at ContactLesbianInTheCity@gmail.com

Apr 1, 2014

Shit Lesbians Say, Do & Why Being Single Is A Plus



No this is not some April Fools post (I stopped that b.s. when I was in middle school…and hopefully so did every other grown ass woman) what you’re about to see and read are things I could not make up if you paid me (and trust, my imagination is very wild).

Let’s start here: 


I used to love the Between Women series (Team Winney & Gabby!) and this video, no matter how many times I see it, cracks me the hell up. Why? Because it’s so sad, yet so true! 

Games: As Keith told Shante in Two Can Play That Game: “You play more games than the whole damn NBA.” You’ve heard about them, you’ve seen them, you’ve probably lived them. The yes yes, no no, I don’t know if I’m bisexual or truly a lesbian, I think I’m still in love with my ex, baby daddy/ex-husband drama. If it’s not the games it’s the drama. Why? What happened to being grown ups?!? 

Psycho Control Freaks: Now don’t get me wrong, I love me an Alpha female. I’m a control freak too…but there is clearly a fine line between being assertive and being a psycho. I follow a few Lesbian Pages on Facebook and lately they have been flooded with members questions about their partner being considered disrespectful because she likes a friends pictures on Facebook, or whether or not their partners are allowed to have new friends or friends outside of their relationship, or them being upset because their partner greets their neighbors. Yes, sick shit! So what’s next? Curfew? Picking out your partners clothes? Weekly Allowance? Stalking? Your partner is not your property, pet, or child. You can’t make a grown woman do anything she does not want to do no more than she can make you do what you do not want to do.

Jealousy & Insecurity: They’re like Ebony & Ivory only this is NOT, I repeat NOT PERFECT HARMONY. This video explains it all. If the woman you’re dating or in a relationship with is pulling this Dr. Jeykll/Mr. Hyde mess run in the other direction. Because as Martin says “the shit don’t get any better.” 

Some will criticize Singlehood, saying that we’re always lonely, unhappy, miserable, etc. But I have to admit at this stage in my life I am enjoying it. I go out when I want to, host parties and game nights when I want some company, my career and future are #1 on my list, and most importantly I don’t have to deal with the drama and craziness that seems to be taking over the Lesbian community. I’m open to a loving relationship but I know this mess is not what qualifies a relationship as being healthy. 

So until the right one comes along I’m happily single and loving it…