Relax, It's Just Sex: Swingers & Adult Playgrounds

Admit it. You’ve thought about it and may have even tried it, or maybe you just feed off the energy from watching it. I’m talking about swingers and adult playgrounds, or sex clubs as many like to call them. I’m a sexually open person, I’ve had threesomes with a partner, been propositioned by couples (lesbian and straight) during my singlehood, and think bondage can be an amazing thing. But there is one world I have only participated in as an observer.

Swingers: also known as partner swapping is a non-monogamous behavior, in which partners in a committed relationship or singles engage in sexual activities with others as a recreational or social activity.

This lifestyle or activity is not without negative connotations. Many critics or uptight prudes infer that swinging is the cause for the high level of STDs, infidelity, and devious behaviors in the world. But truth be told, Swingers are the first ones to ask for diagnostic laboratory paperwork (how many of you ask to see them papers? Right), use all forms of protection, there’s no such thing as cheating because it’s all consensual, and the so called “devious behavior” they refer to falls under BDSM which is a whole other lifestyle and is not exclusive to swinging.

I learned a lot from swinging couples during my visits to adult playgrounds (we’ll talk about that those places soon). They have rules and they are very strict about them being respected. They include who’s allowed to touch, penetrate, or engage with whom, and what kind of sex they’re allowed to engage in. Many of these couples are professionals, they have careers, children, and are respected within in their communities but they prefer to keep their sexual lives private. Which brings me to adult playgrounds aka sex clubs.

Adult Playgrounds are members only clubs where couples and swingers can celebrate and engage in the swinger lifestyle. These clubs host weekly events which require members to either RSVP or purchase tickets to attend. From what I’ve been told by a few couples, they like using this venue for their swing play because they don’t want that energy in their home. I can understand and respect that, in fact I like that way of thinking. The two clubs I’ve been to (yes, I said two!) have very strict rules about allowing single men to join and attend events. From what I’ve heard other clubs do not allow single men to join or attend events ever. Here are some rules common at every club:

1. Cell Phones, Cameras or any recording devices are not allowed into the club or the  parking lot
2. NO sweat suits, jog pants, baseball caps, sports attire, sneakers, work boots, flannel shirts or T-Shirts. You are attending an upscale event, please dress for it!
3. NO TOUCHING WITHOUT ASKING!

Adult Playgrounds are a very high sexual energy experience. As I said, I’ve only observed. I love the sexual energy on the dance floor and being a voyeur while peeking into a few rooms.

If this post has sparked a new curiosity I highly suggest checking out a few websites for the clubs you’d like to attend. Remember they don’t give tours. You either walk in as a member or remain forever curious.

If you’re in the Philly, Jersey, DC area swing by these websites. You can thank me later. 

The Pleasure Garden (Philadelphia)
Role Play (Atlantic City, NJ)
The Crucible (Washington, DC)

And for the swingers ready for a destination adventure there's Hedonism II