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Mar 19, 2014

Confession Session: Teacher's Pet


It’s so cliché that it’s a popular scene in many movies and porn productions, and off the big screen there are people going to prison for the very act. Student-Teacher love affairs.

I wasn’t looking for this to happen, it sort of just happened to me, and between us. My mission was to knock out this fifteen week 300 Level Biology course and get on with my life. Having a fling was not a part of the agenda. But then I saw her. 

The first day of class I arrived early and took my seat in the front of the class as I usually do. I was reading over the syllabus when I heard the door open and heels gracing the floors. It was her. Dressed in black pumps, pencil skirt, fitted top and a white lab overcoat. I was awestruck, I was instantly turned on, I had to have her. She put her stack of powerpoints on the front desk then looked at the clock, then at me.

“You’re early”
“Always. You’re late if you’re on time, right?”
“I like how you think. This Professor appreciates you already.” 

And from the that day the flirtation and sexual tension between the two of us continued to rise. Three days out of the week we had our own side conversations before and after class, she always sat next to me during labs to make sure my experiments came out right, and if she ever needed something from her office during lecture she’d hand me the keys and ask me to retrieve it. One day after a DNA lecture I wandered into her office and asked if I could see an extensive break down of a specific process. She pulled out a huge book while I sat on the edge of her desk. 

“Does your boyfriend know you’re hanging out here late?” she asks with her hand touching mine
“I don’t date boys.”
“What does your girlfriend think about you being here late?”
“I don’t have a girlfriend, but what does your girlfriend think about you working late?” We could have had sex right then and there. Too bad someone knocked on the door. 

About two weeks later we had our lab final demo and our lecture final exam. She posted the individual closing meeting schedule (each student has to meet with the professor to review lab demo and final grade) during the final exam. I was scheduled to see her, one on one, the last meeting slot on the last meeting day. I knew what that meant, I knew what she wanted…because I wanted the same thing.

The day I was scheduled to meet with her I dressed for the occasion – skinny jeans, stilettos, plunging v-neck top with my favorite Fredericks of Hollywood Extreme Cleavage bra (if you don’t own one, I highly suggest you order two!). I was ready to conquer and be conquered. I arrived to her office as scheduled. She was sitting at her desk, looking sexier than ever. I locked the door and sat on her desk, she remained seated in front of me.

“Are you ready for your final review?”
“I’m ready for whatever you want to do”

We kissed, long, hard, passionately. She grabbed my hair, I hiked up her skirt. Soon our tryst began to resemble the lyrics from Jill Scott’s Crown Royal. Both of us fighting for control, trying to keep the sounds of our love making from reaching the halls. She left me breathless, I left her wanting more. If only we had more time. 

We had one more encounter after our first that granted us an entire night. After our last meeting we went our separate ways. No calls, no emails, no contact. Every now and then she’ll cross my mind. If I wanted to replay that day again I know I most certainly could…

"Teach U a Lesson" by Robin Thicke

Mar 13, 2014

The Juggling Act



The post you all have been waiting for – my current dating life! Ever since Mrs. Right and I split I’ve been getting sound advice and suggestions from my good friend Z. She recently got engaged to the most amazing woman ever but I remember when Z’s dating life and search for love was just as hectic as mine. She’s found happiness and she wants nothing but the same for me. “Don’t put all your faith in one basket, date and talk to multiple women.” Now I’ve always said that I am not one to juggle. I’m a serial monogamist…but hell it’s 2014, lets shake some things up a bit. And here it goes…

Not to toot my own horn, but umm Beep Beep, I have not had to do much in terms of finding women to date. I’ve been approached online and in person by several women and I’ve done nothing more than be out and about, doing my own thing with friends and/or family, and keeping my online profile on point. 

In person I’ve been asked out by a Physician’s Assistant while at clinical rotation for school. She’s beautiful, intelligent, and fun to be around. We initially met for a drink and agreed if conversation was flowing right we’d grab a table for dinner. Well we ended up staying for dinner and closing down the restaurant! We’ll definitely go out again. One night while hanging out at the Fridays my classmate bartends at with a group of friends, I sat next to young woman who immediately sparked up a conversation with me. I found out she’s a Paralegal and wants to go to law school but wants to work as a bartender while trying to get through school. I talked to her about my experiences as a bartender and going to school. Next thing you know she offers me her number and asks if we can have dinner. She’s beautiful, great sense of humor, and conversationalist so why not! Dinner went well and we will be planning our next outing soon.

There are two women who have approached me online whom I am talking to and getting to know. The first one is a VP for a major corporation, at first I thought a dating situation would work well for us but after getting to know her for a while I realized that she still has some people in her life whom she needs to let go of so we’re definitely in the friendship/flirting zone and keep up with each other weekly. Lady number two owns her own production company and is a down to earth free spirit, as with the others she is very beautiful but her beauty is unique. I love her complexion! She invited me to her birthday celebration and due to my schedule I was unable to attend but we’ve made plans to run around town and have a rockstar weekend very soon and since my schedule is about to be open that will be happening before the month is out. 

I’m a member of a MeetUp group which keeps me active and my schedule packed with events. If you’re looking for a way to socialize with other lesbians definitely check out the MeetUp groups in your area. I recently hosted an event and as asked out by a member and the friend of another member. I haven’t accepted the offers but I’ll be mixing and mingling with them again at the upcoming event I’m hosting so we shall see. 

Is there one person I like more than the others? At this point, I can’t truly say there is. They all hold my attention and are mentally stimulating in one way or another. Time will tell who I am meant to get serious with. Until then I’m enjoying myself and the company I am keeping…

Mar 4, 2014

Let's Talk About Sex



Have you ever looked at someone you used to date and think – “What the f*ck was I thinking?!? Was I drunk (or high) the entire time?!?” A few days ago a friend brought a recent picture of a woman I dated to my attention and all I could think was how unattractive she looks and if she was this unattractive when I dated her. Oh well…


I know I promised to update you on my dating and relating life (and I will, next post) but this is more important at the moment. It’s life changing and could save a life by halting some dangerous behaviors. I work in the Emergency Department of a hospital as a Nurse Extern so I come in contact with a lot of young folks who need guidance and education. One particular patient was a “frequent flyer” for STD treatment. She was a beautiful young woman, about to get out of high school, and according to her so in love with her boyfriend. After noticing how many times she’s been treated in the ED I decided to do some patient education and see why this keeps occurring. Now for me, and most people, sex education is common knowledge and we know what’s out there, how you contract it, and how to avoid it. But since they stopped having sex education in majority schools in this country, a lot of youth today learn about sex via Google, YouTube and their promiscuous friends. Parents aren't talking to their kids like they should either.


I inquired about her sexual activity history and what (if any) forms of protection or contraception she was using. She informed me that she was on the pill and her and her boyfriend did not like to use condoms because “he doesn’t like the way it feels.” She also informed me that she has other sexual partners that her boyfriend does not know about and that’s where the recurrent infections are coming from. I explained to her that birth control is not effective for STD prevention/protection  and that she needs to talk to her boyfriend so that he can get tested and treated as well. Her reaction: “I love him and he don’t need to know about this. I got this under control…” …Two weeks ago our ED Physician diagnosed her with HIV. Not even 21…damn that, not even 18 and her life is almost over.

How many of you discuss STD status with your mate before your first sexual encounter? How many of you go get tested/cleared with your mate? How many of your practice safe sex for/during random encounters? 


There are some lesbians out there who believe we are immune to STDs. I don’t know where that notion came from but just like anyone else we need to protect ourselves. Condoms for strap ons, dental dam (or cling wrap) for oral sex, latex free gloves for digital penetration. In the heat of the moment emotions and hormones are running high but before you dive in have those important conversations. And always, always know your status and the status of your mate. Show them papers baby. 


Stay tuned for the dish on my current dating life…a juicy confession…and talk about swingers and adult playgrounds…

And don’t forget you can reach me via email at ContactLesbianInTheCity@gmail.com