My Decision To Be A Single Mother

A few weeks ago I got the most exciting news from one of my besties – she’s expecting her first child! She’s in her 40’s and always thought about being a mother, possibly foster-adoption, but now that she is pregnant her motherhood dreams have come true. And now my motherhood dreams are once again screaming loudly. 

While I was in Pittsburgh with my Mother earlier this month, we talked a lot about my desire to be a mother and single motherhood. She’s extremely excited about becoming a grandmother as I am her only child so that’s the only way she can become a grandmother. But like everyone else I’ve disclosed my pregnancy and single motherhood plan to, she voiced the concern about me doing this on my own. 

I’ve gotten questions from how I am going to actually get pregnant to how I plan to care for a child on my own. First things first, artificial insemination is just as common as getting knocked up the old fashioned way. I’ve found a donor and will be doing home artificial insemination, and if that doesn’t work I’ll be heading to a fertility center to have IUI’s done. Based on what I’ve been told by my Midwife, my levels are good and I shouldn’t have any issues conceiving as I am health and still have plenty of eggs. 

Why Single Motherhood? I’ve been on plenty of dates and what is lacking is quality. The women I’ve gone out with are just not someone I’d want in my life long term let alone even consider having a family with. I don’t get even get into details about my future plans, outside of expanding my nursing career and while the prospect of a long term relationship seems nice, motherhood is more appealing to me than having someone in my life.

I’m excited about all that motherhood will bring me and my mother. I’m looking forward to holiday traditions, vacations to other countries, watching my Mother be overjoyed with grandmotherhood, and more importantly I will have achieved my ultimate goal in life. Having a child on my own will eliminate that elephant in the room during the dating phase. I can date without wondering about the future, a freedom many cannot say they have.

I have achieved a new peace of mind and I’m ready for all the future is going to bring. Countdown to 2015 is in full effect!

M.I.A: The Current State of Me

I logged onto my Blogger account today and realized that I haven’t written a post since the end of July! Yikes! I could have sworn I posted something in August…or at least in my mind I did. Oops! 

There’s no denying that I’ve been M.I.A but certainly with good reason. I’ve been simply living my life. Work has kept me busy with more and more 12 hour shifts making their way onto my schedule. There are a lot of changes coming down in our Emergency Department and with new changes comes new demands for staffing. Translation: work owns my ass! Most nights I come home, take a shower, and just crash. I rarely have energy for anything else, unless I get my second wind and my friends convince me to venture to an event.

When I’m not at work I’m busy being the hostess with most for my MeetUp group or hosting house parties and game nights for my friends and family. I’m not 100% sure how I find the energy for these things but I do and it’s a great outlet for me. If you don’t know what MeetUp is I suggest you explore some groups in your area. If you’re single it will give you an opportunity to link up with likeminded ladies. 

More recently I spent Labor Day weekend with my Mother’s family in Pittsburgh. I haven’t been there since the last time I wrote about my experience in My Mother, Myself. This experience went a lot better than before. My grandmother turned 90 this year and it was such a joy to celebrate with her. I got the warmest welcome from my Aunt, Uncle, and baby Cousin whom I haven’t seen in years! My Mother has definitely calmed down in terms of her resentment of my closeness with my Aunt and we bonded like we always have – over good food and lots of wine. One thing my cousin and I noticed is that our Mothers are just high strung people. They’re so much alike and we both found ourselves pleading with them to calm down or to stop being so anxious. At least someone in the family shares my pain.

Not much of break since I got back to town as my two advanced Nursing degree classes began yesterday and of course I have multiple assignments due throughout the week so there goes any hope of having much of a life on my days off because it’s back to the school grind.

So that’s the story of my never ending life. In my upcoming post I’ll be shedding some light deeper into my personal life, answering your email questions publicly (yes I do read them), and discussing a touchy subject. Stay tuned and bear with me…