A few weeks ago I got the most exciting news from one of
my besties – she’s expecting her first child! She’s in her 40’s and always
thought about being a mother, possibly foster-adoption, but now that she is
pregnant her motherhood dreams have come true. And now my motherhood dreams are
once again screaming loudly.
While I was in Pittsburgh with my Mother earlier this
month, we talked a lot about my desire to be a mother and single motherhood.
She’s extremely excited about becoming a grandmother as I am her only child so
that’s the only way she can become a grandmother. But like everyone else I’ve
disclosed my pregnancy and single motherhood plan to, she voiced the concern
about me doing this on my own.
I’ve gotten questions from how I am going to actually get
pregnant to how I plan to care for a child on my own. First things first,
artificial insemination is just as common as getting knocked up the old
fashioned way. I’ve found a donor and will be doing home artificial
insemination, and if that doesn’t work I’ll be heading to a fertility center to
have IUI’s done. Based on what I’ve been told by my Midwife, my levels are good
and I shouldn’t have any issues conceiving as I am health and still have plenty
of eggs.
Why Single Motherhood? I’ve been on plenty of dates and
what is lacking is quality. The women I’ve gone out with are just not someone I’d
want in my life long term let alone even consider having a family with. I don’t
get even get into details about my future plans, outside of expanding my
nursing career and while the prospect of a long term relationship seems nice,
motherhood is more appealing to me than having someone in my life.
I’m excited about all that motherhood will bring me and
my mother. I’m looking forward to holiday traditions, vacations to other
countries, watching my Mother be overjoyed with grandmotherhood, and more
importantly I will have achieved my ultimate goal in life. Having a child on my
own will eliminate that elephant in the room during the dating phase. I can
date without wondering about the future, a freedom many cannot say they have.
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