(1) Hoping that hot chick at Starbucks is a Lesbian and
risking potential embarrassment by asking her out only to find out she is a
Straight homophobe. Unless your Gaydar is better than Superman’s I highly
suggest you avoid this option.
(2) Allowing your friends to set you up on numerous (and EXTRMELY HORRIBLE) blind dates. Out
of sheer desperation one may choose this option but I think it should be a last
resort because of option #3
(3) Online Dating!
I like online dating because it can take some of the
awkwardness out of getting to know someone on the first date. I also like it
because you have access to people you would not see in your daily dealings and
you know all the women are Lesbians (or
Bisexual) so it takes the guess work out of it and you get to avoid a
sticky Option #1 situation. Another good thing about online dating is that things
go at your pace so you’re not pressured to give someone your number just so you
can have contact with them like you would if you had met her at the club or in
a bar. I don’t know about you, but if a woman and I have nothing in common I
sure as hell don’t want her having my cell number so she can text me and ring
my damn phone off the hook (Can we say
IGNORE/REJECT stalker!).
The key to starting the whole online dating experience is to
find the right site for you. There are tons of sites out there, not like it was
back in the 90’s when there were only a few, and they range from free (either completely or just some features)
to paid memberships. Although there are a ton of sites out there now there
still are very few catering to the LGBT community. My suggestion is that you
explore a few sites if you can without having to setup a profile, see if they
have active members and if those members are people you’d like to get to know.
If not, move onto the next site. As I said there are plenty of sites out there,
you have to find the right one for YOU.
So you’ve got the site you want to use, now what? Setup a
good profile. I cannot stress this enough as this is the very critical piece to
your online dating experience – YOUR PROFILE MUST BE HONEST AND ACCURATE AND HAVE
AT LEAST 2-5 RECENT, I WILL SAY THAT AGAIN RECENT, YES RECENT, NO NOT HIGH
SCHOOLS BUT RECENT PHOTOS OF YOU, AGAIN YOU, JUST YOU, NOT YOUR PLANT, YOUR
CAR, YOU PET, YOUR GRANDMOTHER, YOUR BEST FRIEND, YOU! A bad profile is
a bad first impression and first impressions can lead to you being asked out or
you being told that you’re not my type. I highly suggest typing your About Me
Section wording in MS Word and then forward to a trusted friend (preferably the one with a thorough
education, and some class. Just saying. But you’ll thank me later) for
editing and feedback.
Here’s my experience. I’ve been doing the online dating
thing off and on for three years now so I’ve learned a lot, made some cool
friends, and had a relationship with a person or two but I have to admit that I
prefer online dating above all else. I love being able go at my own speed
without having to give out personal contact information, I love being able to
decide if I want to communicate with someone who shows an interest in me without
having to make up some excuse to get out of their presence. What site do I
recommend? Well Match.com seems to get more complex the longer they are around
(someday I’ll put up a Match.com profile,
but that’s when I have the patience to navigate that damn site. I swear it’s
like Facebook – everytime you turn around somethings new) but I find that
Curve Personals has a large Lesbian member base and their prices are
reasonable. Check them out, and thank me when you find the love of your life (I mean it, I better get honorable mention at
the wedding)
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