Single & Fabulous

Aug 18, 2015

The Night We Slept Over



This past weekend was one for the books. Nina started a new business venture and had her first project on Sunday morning and Saturday evening we spent our first overnight together in her parent’s home. 

Nina’s adorable nephews have not seen in since April so they wanted to have a birthday dinner for her at Nina’s parent’s home so they could spend time with her and finally meet me. Since Nina had a new client she promised work for on Sunday she suggested that we spend the night with her parent’s and then Sunday morning she can take care of the project for her client then return to her parent’s home and help get things ready for her birthday dinner.

I was a bit apprehensive about this because although I was completely comfortable with her parent’s, and completely love and adore her Mother, this was our first 24+ hours we would be spending with her parent’s. Of course with this came my other problem – finding appropriate sleepwear. I couldn’t walk around Nina’s parent’s home in boyshorts and a tank top like I do around our home. Which brings me to my next lesson – unless you are shopping in the Grandma clothing section, there is absolutely no Overnight With The Parent’s appropriate sleepwear! Too short, too tight, too see through, too seductive. I’d have to wear a robe the entire night! I finally found something but it took me 2 hours! 

Nina’s Mother is your typical Jewish Mother. All this woman did was feed me! She bought Chinese and Sushi for dinner because Nina told her I’d eat either. Now when the weather is as hot as it has been I stick to lighter fare because heavier foods make me nauseous so eating the sushi was not an issue…but her mother insisted that I try the general tso’s chicken, chicken and broccoli, and shrimp lo mein! 

The bedroom Nina and I shared for the evening was perfectly situated on the other side of their home which was good because as much as we tried not to, we had sex that evening. Oh the joys of trying to be quiet while you can hear her parent’s walking around…still up eating desserts at 11:00 P.M. The next morning Nina said she doubts her mother heard us because she would not be making eye contact with us. LOL! 

The next morning I had breakfast and coffee on the patio with Nina’s mother while she worked on her project. The feeding frenzy began again, this time with her mother practically hand feeding me breakfast pastries. I have to admit, I couldn’t resist. Sometimes a mother’s loving gestures is what you really need in the morning. One thing Nina’s mother said that really touched my heart was “Since you’re now a part of this family I need to know what you eat so I can make sure it’s here when you two come visit.” If I didn’t love that woman before, now was the crowning moment. 

Dinner with Nina’s nephews was a blast. They are very wonderful, well mannered, little gentlemen. And I hate teenagers but these three were raised right. We introduced them to Phase 10 and for 3 hours we sat on the living room floor laughing and joking with them. We bonded so well that Nina and I agreed to have them sleepover one weekend once we were all settled into the new apartment. They can’t wait. 

My relationship with Nina is truly a blessing. The abundance of love and acceptance we continue to receive is heartwarming and a huge motivation…

Aug 10, 2015

Movin' On In



Between work and Nina I have been a busy bee. The weekend after my birthday Nina’s mother asked us to join them at their home for a birthday dinner complete with my favorite – Homemade Strawberry Shortcake. Dinner was amazing and I got to bond more with her mother which is always good. She’s such a sweet woman, something I certainly am not used to. 

As I mentioned before, Nina and I have discussed living together. Our leases are ending and we decided that since she is with me 7 days per week anyways that she might as well move in. I called my property manager to see if a two bedroom would become available soon and to my surprise she said October 1st the place in my same courtyard would be available so I would be able to move in 2 weeks prior and she would not charge me for the earlier move in date and would prorate Septembers rent. Perfect! The space is what Nina and I need because right now it’s crazy!

The only woman I shared space with long term was my 5 year relationship with the Administrator. And well that relationship certainly wasn’t a pleasant one nor an ideal situation no matter how big that damn penthouse was. It was tainted. Since then I have been on my own, living in my own space and loving it. Nina has brought most of her items here to make the move from Philly easier for her. That’s when I realized how essential a bigger apartment would be. We have no room, and I mean absolutely no room, not even for our common groceries etc. 

Have you ever seen that episode of Martin where Gina moves in and they have two of everything so they have to decide what stays and what goes…but neither one of them want to give up their items? Yeah. It was sorta like that for a while. I love my coffee maker, but Nina had a Keurig. I’m not a fan of the Keurig because I love my coffee strong and no matter how hard I tried there just wasn’t a brand of coffee strong enough available from Keurig. As much as I didn’t want to I got rid of my coffee maker and we kept the Keurig. Since then I have purchased the Starbucks Verona kcups and I have a reusable filter that I can fill with stronger, Keurig ground coffee from Starbucks or another supplier. Thus far I am okay…but I still miss my damn coffee maker. 

We have tons of pots and pans, and we haven’t even brought her dishes here yet. As far as closets go, she’s just as much of a clothes whore as I am. I’m waiting for the bar in the closet to break any day now because we keep buying clothes! At least we settled on a new color theme and comforter set for the bedroom. In all, that was the easy part. We both like blue so we went that route. 

Our mission is to be packed up and out of here by September 15th and to start getting settled in our new apartment. All of this on top of our hectic work schedules and trying to maintain some form of a social life. 

Welcome to the next chapter of my life…

Jul 21, 2015

30 + 1



Over the weekend 30 got an upgrade. I moved from the 30 doorway and fully into the cascade of the years which will now be forever known as My 30’s. 

On the 17th Nina took me to dinner at The Melting Pot followed by the Floetry Concert at the TLA. Dinner was amazing, being that this was Nina’s first time trying fondue, she was very open to the idea and enjoyed it. So much that she said she would like to return so that’s where we will be doing dinner for her upcoming birthday. The concert was great. Seeing Natalie and Marsha back on the stage blessing us with their musical melodies and talent revived my soul. 

The 18th, my actual birthday, we had a BBQ with friends at my home. Nina decided to surprise me with a Stripper which was supposed to turn our evening into fun but ended up being more of a letdown. Let’s just we know which agency to never use again and to strictly recruit our entertainment from our local stripclubs. Once the hustler left we continued to have a wonderful time. Nina asked me if she could take me away next year for my birthday. I told her of course she could. 

My 31 Reflection: Life has been giving me so many blessings. 2015 has turned out to be a great year for me professionally and personally. I got to spend my birthday with a great partner who’s family loves and adores me so much that her Mother called and sang happy birthday to me and will be making a birthday dinner complete with my favorite cake this coming weekend. 

Next Up: Movin’ On In. Nina and I will be living together…

Jul 1, 2015

Hello Marriage Equality, What The Hell Took You So Long?



Pride Month wrapped up with the Supreme Court of the United States declaring the ban on same sex marriage unconstitutional, therefore Gay and Lesbian couples who wish to marry are now afforded the same rights, benefits and protections under federal and state laws as the Breeders. No doubt this ruling has brought out the homophobes and nay sayers…and those who you thought were supporters of the Gay and Lesbian community are suddenly showing how much they are playing for Team Homophobe. 

I had a family member tell me that her sister, whom I have always regarded as my sister and have been out in front of my entire life, said to some other family members that she doesn’t understand why she allows her teenage daughter to be a Lesbian. Allow? She doesn’t have a choice in this whatsoever, she was born a lesbian whether you want to accept the science behind it or not. I was so heated over this news that I took Facebook, went to my baby cousin’s page and posted for the entire world to see that I love her for who she is, despite how others may judge her life. She is a whole person 24/7/365 and those who truly love you will love all of you not just pieces of your that they agree with. Another cousin who is a minister’s wife posted that she doesn’t agree with homosexuality but finds it hard to support her family and friends who are homosexual. Ummm excuse me Miss Fake First Lady of the church but weren’t you identifying as lesbian back in high school? You had a full fledge lesbian relationship. Now you don’t agree with homosexuality when you identified as one? Right…

So called Christians using the bible to only suit their argument against same sex marriage, yet they don’t want to talk about how divorce is a sin, cohabitation before marriage is a sin, premarital sex is a sin, having children out of wedlock is a sin, having affairs is a sin. And the list goes on and on. But we don’t talk about that, right? Right…

I’m glad Marriage Equality is here because it’s exposing people for the fakes and two faced wannabes they truly are. I know where I stand with certain family members and which Christians are truly Christians. 

In other news, Dad’s retirement party went well…except for the freeloading motherfuckers who showed up who were not invited. One thing is for sure, I need to get my girl some dance lessons because she cannot dance! LOL! She has to learn before we attend our first wedding together…

Jun 13, 2015

Me & Nina: How It's Supposed To Be



Happy Pride 2015! I decided not to attend any of the Pride festivities in Philly this year. Just the same shit, different year and they aren’t even making an effort to change it. OutFest is what I attend so in October I’ll celebrate in the Gayborhood with my same sex loving brothers and sisters. And I just so happen to have an awesome, kickass girlfriend to spend time with so later for all the Pride madness. 

I have to admit that I have been truly blessed with Nina. No ex drama, no baby daddy/mama drama, no drama period! We’re lovers and best friends. It truly gets no better than this. For years I have fallen for women who could not even reciprocate the love, openness, honesty, loyalty, or affection that I brought to the table. With Nina I don’t have to ask, beg, or plead because it’s always there even when you least expect it. Arguments? What arguments? We don’t have them. We have some of the deepest discussions about God, life choices, and how the world is today. We value our time together yet also value our time apart. If I go out with friends she’s content waiting for me at home until I return, if she has a late work event to attend I make sure she comes home to comfortable surroundings and nothing but love because I understand she’s had a long day. We just fit and it works and I’m so grateful for this woman. 

I’m not the only one who loves Nina. My best friend and her husband have welcomed her into the family with open arms. Recently a friend of ours was asking for attendance confirmations for her upcoming wedding down south. I sent this friend a text letting her know that I would be attending with Nina and that we planned to fly in, rent a car, and hotel for the weekend. This friend text me back stating that Nina was welcome to attend the ceremony but she was unsure if she could attend the reception. Now before I proceed with the other part of this story I must say that is tacky and must be some new age wedding bullshit because my upbringing is that if you invite a single person to an event you always give a plus one. If they bring someone great, if not still great. Back to the story, my best friend’s husband got wind of all of this and said “If Nina is not welcome then none of us are welcome.” We all decided not to attend. How much sense does it make for us to spend money on getting to the wedding plus a gift only for my girlfriend to have to sit in the hotel room while the rest of us are at the reception. That’s a not cool by any means. 

Instead of spending the money going to someone’s wedding we decided to spend the money on a weekend vacation somewhere warm and where we can run around in bikinis all weekend. I’m thinking Key West or maybe even Saint Croix. 

In other news, both of our leases are up close to the end of this year and we already spend five nights out of the week with each other anyway…so yeah we’re thinking of sharing a common address…